Sex is like food. How are you feeding yourself?
I love potato chips. I also love doughnuts and ice cream and I rarely eat them. Okay, a handful of chips with something else, a tablespoon of ice cream standing in front of the sink. A doughnut (or two) is an excellent gorge. My indulgence is self-limiting because I pay attention to how I feel after I eat. I feel best when I feed myself greens and fish.
And a bite of chocolate.
And some wine.
Everyone has different nutritional needs. When I try someone else’s choices sometimes I suffer. Too much pasta leaves me sick, bloated, and regretful. Too much red meat and I feel like a meatloaf myself.
(Disclosure: I gave myself a potato chip hangover this weekend.)
How does this work for sex? Is there such thing as snack-sex? What’s a well-balanced sex meal?
For me, I feel happiest and healthiest after a deep, languorous sexual encounter that meets me on all levels (body, heart, mind, soul). I am up for encounters that are not all of those and if I have to choose, I prefer intimacy without sex rather than sex without intimacy.
But that’s just me.
There are 270 different religions in the world and according to the Dalai Lama we need them all.There are so many flavors of sex, we probably need all of them too.
Think of me as your sexual dietitian. Let’s look together at what gives you sustenance, what you do out of habit, and where you might cut back. What does your sexual diet consist of, which activities leave you feeling well-fed and fulfilled? We all have different digestive requirements.
Still hungry after an encounter? Let’s find out what’s missing.
Feel like you’re over-indulging? Let’s get you back on track.
Are you starving? I’m full of ideas about finding nourishment where you might not expect.
Contact me to set up a session.