Specializations

Some areas you may be interested in exploring:

• I avoid intimacy because I fear rejection or poor sexual performance
• My partner is/I am no longer interested in sex or physical intimacy
• I want more out of/to bring more to my relationship, sexually and emotionally
• Claiming or reclaiming my sexual self
• Vulnerability, intimacy and connection
• Consent and beyond
• Erection and ejaculation issues
• Body image and self-esteem
• The role of fantasy in my sex life
• Managing grief
• I think my sexual identity is shifting. Now what?

Sexuality

When sex is good, it takes us beyond our self and into our Self. For some few moments we are larger than our personality and preferences.

Learning to follow the thread of pleasure is key to a satisfying sexual experience individually and in relationship. We will address what gets in the way of pleasure, which can include body image issues, aging, learned attitudes, and shame. We can work together to let go of cultural baggage and past traumatic events, finding more freedom for you.

If the thought of sex fills you with dread, let’s look at why. We will consider the elements of your sexual life and how you make decisions. I can help you to identify your authentic sexual self so you can thrive!

I’m LGBTQ+ friendly, Kink-friendly, and addiction-wise.

Relationships

There is more pressure than ever before on our intimate relationships to do everything for us. Let’s discover what is most nourishing about intimacy for you: sex, companionship, the feeling of being seen, known, and accepted, or something else entirely.

From an intimate relationship we need two opposing things: safety and excitement. In the beginning, sex can be thrilling! Over time we become closer, answering our need for stability, safety. Over time we become so familiar with our partner that the spark can dissipate.

Whether you are in a traditional relationship or an alternative one, I can help you make healthy choices, set great boundaries, and consciously cultivate your intimate relationships so they are an expression of your authentic self.

I’m LGBTQ+ friendly, Kink-friendly, and addiction-wise.

Intimacy

If we aren’t intimate with ourselves, how can we be intimate with anyone else? Being in intimate relationship with anyone (yourself, your partner, your family) requires self-inquiry, self-disclosure, honesty, and presence. And letting it simply be.

We crave intimacy. We need it for our wellbeing. Sex is one way to have intimate connection and it doesn’t happen every time. Think of intimacy as being seen —truly seen— by another. When we can trust another to show them the real us, we become more anchored in the world. We can share intimacy with all sorts of people in different types of relationships. Learn to discern with whom it will be safe to share yourself and how. If you trust too easily or not at all, this work is for you.

Pornography

What we seek – and how and when and why we seek it – can illuminate our selves, our desires, and our unmet needs.

If you have a problematic relationship with porn, webcamming, or other erotic imagery, we can examine the places that feel dangerous and build on the areas in which you are in control.

Alternative Relationships

There is no “right” type of sexual relationship. The key is to find the type best suited for you right now.

I have over 20 years of experience with alternative relationship styles. I can help you open to new ways safely, at your own pace.

Questioning

If you feel you don’t fit into a category, or if you are changing your identity, we can explore the best expression for you now.
We can bring your outer self into alignment with your inner self in safe ways.

I’m LGBTQ+ friendly, Kink-friendly, and addiction-wise.

Sex and Aging

All bodies age. How we manage and accept our changing physical reality and possibly changing functioning can make a difference in how much joy we experience in our lives.

I create a safe container to explore delicate topics and vulnerable feelings.

There is no age at which sex becomes inappropriate. Conversely, in our hyper-sexual culture we often feel pressure to be something we are not. Sexually speaking we are better off accepting our authentic preferences and respecting our physical reality.

We live with Western cultural imperatives for women to stay youthful and beautiful, with steep consequences for not conforming. Imperatives for men include performance-based expectations, which are innately disappointing over time and cause intense shame and eventually disconnection. Focusing on pleasure allows us to find enjoyment and connection in sex, however it expresses.

I’m LGBTQ+ friendly, Kink-friendly, and addiction-wise.